Pressure on Valentine’s Day?

If you are in a relationship, do you feel pressured to make special occasions “perfect” for your significant other?

I was reading something recently about the anxiety some men feel on Valentine’s Day. They know their wife or girlfriend has really high expectations and are worried they won’t get the day “just right” for her. I asked my husband if he felt that way. He said he felt some pressure the first Valentine’s Day we spent together, because we’d only been dating since November and he wasn’t sure what I expected.

I remember that first Valentine’s Day, of course. He offered to make dinner for me at my new apartment. I said that would be nice and suggested he make a pizza and bring over some beer. Yeah, I’ve always had pretty refined tastes ;).

I found some pictures from that first V-Day S and I spent together, back in 2000. They aren’t the greatest because they are scanned from prints I’m pretty sure were taken with a disposable camera! But it’s fun to look back and remember the cute balloons, bear, and roses he brought me.

Valentine's Day balloons 2_2000

Valentine's Day flowers and bear 2000

And of course the meal he prepared!

Valentine's Day pizza 1 2000

And here I am, looking rather young and quite pleased with my slices of pizza and can of beer. I can’t fool myself into thinking I still look that young (alas!) but I like to think I still look that happy :).

Liz 2.1 Valentine's Day 2000

I find it interesting that in the beginning of a relationship, every little thing a man does for you can seem like such a big deal, but then, over time, you can start to take things for granted. It’s just human nature. But that doesn’t mean it’s inevitable. It’s always good to remember how lucky we are to have special people in our lives, whether they be spouses, SO’s, friends, or relatives, and it’s also good to remember that we don’t need to give each other fancy presents to prove we care about one another.

As for my husband, he assured me that nowadays when it comes to holidays, he “doesn’t sweat it.” Ha, ha! He said it helps that I’m easy to please, and that we haven’t exchanged gifts on Valentine’s Day for years now, anyway. We just exchange cards and look for a way to spend time and have fun together (and he does still get me flowers). We usually do not even go out on the actual holiday, as every place is packed and neither of us loves crowds. This year we plan on picking up some takeout (Pad Thai, perhaps?) and eating it here at home. I’m also making these skinny red velvet cinnamon rolls tonight, so we can have them for breakfast tomorrow. I’m excited about them and really hope they turn out!!

I hope you have a pressure-free Valentine’s Day tomorrow. Whoever you decide to spend it with, I hope you will thoroughly enjoy that person’s company and take the opportunity to try and let them know they are loved; that is the quickest route to happiness, anyway, is by making someone else smile!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

The Top Ten Best Horror Movies I Watched in October 2014

Every October, S and I watch a different horror movie every night of the month. Afterward, he posts cool art and trailers from each film over on his blog. All the links in this post are his.

I think this October Movie Month was one of our most enjoyable yet! We had a really good “mix” of titles to choose from — some older, some newer, some stuff we’d never seen before, and a few favorites. Plus we sampled from a variety of sub-genres, which is always cool. I decided to list the ones I liked most, so I won’t forget them. Here’s my top ten countdown.

10) Paranormal Activity: The Marked Ones

Fun. And I kind of want that “Fueled by Frijoles” t-shirt.

9) Slither

I’d seen this before but it was still fun and hilarious and great the second time around. “Baby, what happened to your face?” “It’s just a bee sting.”

8) Night of the Creeps

Somehow, I’d never seen this before! Great, especially when watched back to back with Slither, for a fun nasty-slugs-from-space double feature.

7) Jug Face

This is one of those movies I know I’ll never forget. I found it to be unique and more disturbing than scary — although not quite disturbing enough to make my list of Movies I Wish I Could Unsee (post coming soon).

6) We Are What We Are (2013)

Wacky religious cannibals! I have not yet seen the Spanish film this is based on, but now I’m intrigued.

5) The Returned

I’ve been pretty sick of zombies for many years now, so I really appreciated this movie’s different take on them! It’ll make you think.

4) Eyes Without A Face

This film is from 1960 and is in black and white. It’s also in French and has subtitles. I had never even heard of this classic until recently. I really loved some of the imagery, though — weird and grotesque and beautiful all at the same time. And the surgery scene was more graphic than I’d anticipated, considering how old the movie is.

3) Nurse

Just campy, gory fun. Reminded me of something I would’ve watched back when I was younger and living with my roommates. For some reason me and the girls always got a big kick out of watching crazy “erotic thrillers” like this. Although maybe I shouldn’t admit that-?

2) Only Lovers Left Alive

I can’t quite put my finger on what I liked so much about this movie, but I really, really loved it. It was different for a vampire film.

1) Maniac (2012)

Hands down my favorite movie of the month! I love art films and I love horror films and this is an almost perfect blend of each. I’d worried the “shot-from-the-killer’s-POV” device would get annoying but it never did. And instead of overshadowing the story, I think it really enhanced it. The movie winds up being artsy but still sick and gory and seedy the way a slasher film oughtta be. Awesome.

On Halloween night, we also watched The Devil’s Rejects (my pick) and Phantasm (S’s pick). I didn’t include those on the list, though, because they’re both sort of perennial favorites of mine and therefore go without saying…I know a lot of people dislike TDR, and I can see how it’s not for everybody, but IMO it’s a horror masterpiece. I love Rob Zombie!!

PS — Here’s how my Halloween pizza turned out last week:


He was almost too cute to eat! But eat him we did :).

Have a great weekend!